Marriage is Forever, Divorce is for Breaching

All those apposing divorce must hold the doctrine “Once saved, always saved”. Once save, always saved holds a belief called Eternal Security, which mean there is no chance on anyone ever losing out on salvation no matter what they do or don’t do once they have confess the Lord Jesus as their personal savior.

Eternal Security is also called Eternal Covenant. In any case, the purpose behind the name is to promote the idea that salvation is secured and can never be broken under any condition. This would mean God can “never” separate from us and we can “never” depart from God.

This would be equivalent to a marriage relationship that can “never” be broken for any reason. Thus, if I held the belief “Once saved always saved” I must believe the marriage relationship that can “never” be broken for any reason. In short, marriage is a verbal contract vowed between a man and a woman. The two promise to be “faithful” in good times and bad times, in sickness and in health, in times of prosperity and poverty. Thus, “faithfulness” is the founding pillar behind the marriage contract. In support of this argument, the same principle of faithfulness is the binding factor behind every verbal or written contract. When a car, truck, house, condo, or townhouse is purchased or leased the property is obtain on the bases of “Faithfulness”. Faithfulness is defined in every contract, whether it’s to make payments on time, keeping the property clean, or keeping full coverage insurance on the car you purchase each contract defines its terms of conditions.

No contract is written without “Terms of Conditions”, even if the conditions are as simple as a promise to do something, which is only effective, if the offer is acceptance. The marriage ceremony itself consists of a promise to do something or “The Offer”, which is completed in the exchange of the vows. In order for the offer or exchange of the vows to be valid there has to be an approval of the promises, this is called “The Acceptance” which is fulfilled in the bride and groom when they say “I do”.  It is here that the “Consideration” is satisfied and the exchange of something of value from each side is given.

Thus the marriage contract is offered and accepted primarily on faithfulness. So what happens actually when a house is purchased based on “The Offer” and “The Acceptance”, but the “Mortgage” is breached because of non-payment on the “Note”? The house will undoubtedly fall into foreclosure and the buyer risk losing the house forever if some sort of an agreement isn’t met. Unfortunately there is no such thing as an Eternal Covenant when real property is purchased from a mortgage company. The doctrine of Eternal Security wants us to believe that once we purchase something under contract, it belongs to us forever and it can never be “TAKEN AWAY” even if the contract is breached. This would mean the mortgage companies can “never” foreclosure for none payments and the financial companies could never repo cars for breach of contract. Wow what a disaster.

Marriage is a verbal contract vowed between a man and a woman in which, the couple promise to be “faithful”, this is the marriage “Terms of Conditions”. The couple vowed to be faithful, but if the contract of faithfulness is breached by either the husband or the wife that marriage can fall into foreclosure. This doesn’t mean the marriage is resolved, but the marriage is in serious danger of default. No different then any other carnal contract, once an agreement has been made both sides or bound to uphold their end of the contract, otherwise the innocent side is free to act. NO one in their right mind would enter a contract knowing that if either side defaults; the innocent side must remain in the contract no matter what. No landlord would rent their investment property to a tenant knowing if the tenant fails to pay they would have to honor the contract and allow them continual access to the property. So why should marriage be any different?

The once saved always save crew wants us to believe there is no chance on anyone ever losing out on salvation no matter what they do or don’t do once they have confess the Lord Jesus as their personal savior.  On the other hand, they often admit there is a frequent habit of backsliding in the church. However, to be consistent in their doctrine they declare when people leave God it confirms they were never saved too begin with. Now, how does this align with the subject at hand, and can this same standard be adopted in every covenant? For instance, if a couple marries and the husband leaves the wife for another woman, does this confirm they were never married to begin with? A car is repo or a house is foreclosed does this confirms that the buyer were never owner of the house or car to begin with? Absolutely not! We all know better then that. Marriage is for Forever, and Divorce is put in place because of Breach of contract.

In ending, marriage is a contract between a man and a woman. The contract is vowed as a life long promise based of faithfulness, and put in jeopardy if unfaithfulness is committed. There is no such thing as an Eternal Security under unfaithfulness. Our salvation has “Terms of Conditions” and these conditions must be met and kept the life of the contract just as the marriage contract.


4 thoughts on “Marriage is Forever, Divorce is for Breaching

  1. And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free!

    Elder Clark, this post is a FAITHFUL saying and worthy of all acceptation, instruction and rebuke of those who teach contrary.

  2. Sometimes when marriages reach a crisis level, I suggest a structured separation. This type of separation involves seven components.

    1. A specific purpose statement for separation related to the problems in the marriage. This could also include a signed covenant.
2. A set of specific and measurable goals.
    3. A projected time frame that does not allow for indefinite separation.
    4. A study on biblical themes of forgiveness and reconciliation (see my booklet).
    5. Reading “Hope for the Separated” by Gary Chapman
    6. A built-in accountability with Church leaders and/or a counselor/mentor.
    7. A small support team to pray for the marriage and offer tangible help.

    Steve Cornell

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